There
is a reason why nature is called Mother Nature or Mother Earth and the country
Motherland and "Inang Bayan" and the church the Holy Mother Church.
There
is something about motherhood that cannotes nurturing and loving, an innate kindness
that draws immortal loyalty from those lucky enough to enjoy a mother's warmth.
Aside from death and taxes, one other thing that's certain is that we all have
mothers, isn't that a thrill?
There
is an invisible umbilical cord that connects mother and child almost inextricably
for the rest of their lifetimes. Instinctively, sometimes, the first word that
pours from a babe's pink lips is "Mama" without prodding from anyone,
we would all notice.
Mothers
love their children like no other person can. It is most graphically shown in
the Biblical story of the wise king Solomon who tried to settle the dispute between
two women who each claimed the child to be her own. Solomon offered to cut the
baby into two and each woman be given one half of the baby.
As
the tale would go, the real mother begged the king to stop the cutting for she
cannot bear her own child to die. At that, the wise king awarded the baby to the
right mother the one who would rather have the baby in the arms of another woman
than see him die.
That's
how mothers are. That's why every second Sunday of the month of May the world
stops activities to give tribute to the greatest vocation in the world: motherhood.
Mothers
allocate finite resources like time, energy, money and resources among her sometimes
many children and tiredness is not in her vocabulary. She just goes on nurturing
day in and day out until the kids acquire wings to fly on their own.
The
loving mother is the first source of affection in the first six months of the
child. The baby wakes up to the world with the eyes interlocked with that of the
mother who sheds tears of joy in seeing her child. The language of embrace, the
language of the eyes, the language of the smile and other communication of pleasure,
the baby first gets from the mother.
The
phrase "working mother," likewise, is redundant, as a saying goes. For
even if she does not go to the office nor toil in the fields, she works in the
house for its upkeep. She often does not get a pay for doing household chores,
be the house accountant, the resident adviser to children and comforter of the
husband. Sometimes she is the walking appliance in the household, providing services
for free.
In
the second phase, Mothers face the dilemma of nurturing the child and setting
him free to stand on his own even as she struggles to keep her own identity. It
is a fact that we all run to our mothers for pieces of advice which we cannot
seem to do with our fathers. Somehow, we assume there is that soft spot in mothers
that make them be on our side a most all of the time.
In
fact, it seems giving advice comes naturally to mothers as if they were to those
genes born. A proverb sayeth thus "A mother understands what a child does
not say." How meaningfully true in many ways.
And
rightful is the mother who understands that true love is letting go. We see mothers
allow their children to make their own mistakes in life, not hovering over their
shoulders all the time, knowing that in their children's mistakes would come wisdom.
Dorothy Parker said it even more powerfully: "A mother is not a person to
lean on but a person to make leaning on unnecessary."
H.
Hulbert quotes that children need love, especially when they do not deserve it.
The phrase may seem to defy logic but it does not. It just defines the immensity
of a mother's love for children that reason may find difficult to justify. But
a mother's love is never justified, it just happens.
Pearl
Buck, the great author, knows that love and discipline are not mutually exclusive
when he says: Some are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is
love just the same. And most mothers kiss and scold together at the same time.
Behind
the success of every man is always a woman behind. It could be the mother who
at once nurtured him with love and values and walked the child through the byways
and highways of life.
It
is with this profound belief in the dignity of the vocation of motherhood that
we greet even belatedly all the loving mothers in the world.
Happy
mother's Day! this Sunday. |